Sleep regressions

Experts say it’s more like a sleep progression, showing that your baby is properly developing, physically, cognitively, and emotionally. Even though your baby is progressing and achieving great milestones, it can cause sleep to regress, which is why most people call it a sleep regression. If you find your baby has gone from sleeping long durations at night and taking great naps during the day, to now having multiple night wakings, early mornings, and short naps, it could mean you've reached a regression.

Why does it cause sleep struggles?

The simplest answer is, because they are so excited! One of the reasons babies may experience sleep disruptions during developmental milestones, such as learning to walk, talk, or engage in new activities, is because they are excited and eager to practice these newfound skills. Just like how adults can feel too excited or stimulated to sleep before a significant event or holiday, babies also experience similar enthusiasm. The excitement and interest in their new abilities can make it challenging for them to settle down and sleep.

The five common regressions

4 Months

It's true that during the four-month regression, babies may experience FOMO (fear of missing out) due to their increased awareness of their surroundings. They may become more curious and easily stimulated by their environment, causing them to have difficulty settling down for sleep.

This regression is also a permanent change in sleep patterns rather than a temporary regression that resolves on its own. Around this age, babies transition from newborn sleep cycles to more mature sleep stages similar to adults.

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8 - 10 Months

Around this age, babies often start developing separation anxiety. They begin to understand object permanence, which means they grasp the concept that objects and people still exist even when they are out of sight. This newfound awareness can lead to anxiety when they see their parents leave the room or when they feel separated from them.

As babies become more mobile, such as when they start standing or crawling, they may grab onto cot rails or cry for attention, seeking comfort and reassurance. They may desire to be picked up and held, as they find security and familiarity in their parent's presence.

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12 Months

Separation anxiety… again, additionally to this babies are often experiencing a surge in development, including the milestones of talking and walking. These new skills can bring about a heightened sense of excitement and exploration in babies as they begin to understand the power of their voice and mobility.

Babies at this age may engage in babbling, experimenting with new sounds and words, which can be incredibly exciting for them. They may also start taking their first steps or become more proficient in walking, opening up a whole new world of possibilities and discoveries.

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18 Months

Around this age, toddlers often begin to assert their independence and discover the power of the word "no." They are developing their communication skills and understanding that they can express their wants, needs, and preferences. This newfound ability to communicate and assert themselves verbally can lead to more frequent and intense expressions of frustration, leading to tantrums.

As toddlers navigate their increasing independence, they may also experience another peak in separation anxiety. They are more aware of their own desires and preferences, as well as the presence and absence of their parents. This can result in heightened emotions and clinginess when faced with separations. Click here for the blog.

24 Months

Separation anxiety and nightmares can continue to affect toddlers' sleep patterns as they grow older. At around two years old, toddlers often begin to develop a vivid imagination, which can lead to fears and worries about things like monsters or other scary creatures.

These fears can disrupt their sleep and cause nighttime awakenings or difficulties falling asleep. Offering a red nightlight or a comforter may also provide a sense of security.

In addition to these anxieties, two years old is a common age for big transitions such as potty training and transitioning to a toddler bed, or perpahs a new sibling. These changes can also impact sleep routines and patterns. Potty training may involve nighttime accidents or the need for bathroom trips, while transitioning to a toddler bed may introduce a new sense of freedom and exploration, potentially leading to more bedtime resistance or disruptions and a new sibling can arise some jealousy.

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What to do and how to handle a regression?

They still need their sleep

Despite the various regressions throughout a child's development, sleep remains crucial for their overall well-being. Naps continue to play an important role and maintaining a consistent bedtim routine between 7-8pm helps ensure they receive adequate nighttime sleep. While children may protest sleep or experience disruptions during these times, it's important for parents to prioritise and encourage healthy sleep habits.

Even during regressions, ensuring that children get enough sleep helps them cope with the changes and promotes optimal functioning during wakeful hours.

Use the day wisely

Taking advantage of awake times to engage in activities that support your child's development can be beneficial for their sleep. By providing ample opportunities for them to practice new skills and explore their surroundings during the day, will make it less exciting during sleep times. Engaging in floor play, encouraging rolling, and providing stimulating yet calming activities can satisfy their need for exploration.

Don't introduce new sleep habits

During regressions, it can be tempting to introduce new habits to help your little one settle or get back to sleep. However, it's crucial to consider the long-term implications of any new habits introduced, because eventually the regression will end. Whether it's additional night feeds, excessive rocking, or co-sleeping, these habits can create dependencies that may persist beyond the regression stage, habits that you need wanted to continue passed the regression phase.

Consistency

Consistency is key when it comes to navigating sleep regressions and even though sleep may temporarily become more difficult, sticking to your usual routine can provide a sense of familiarity and stability for your baby. By remaining consistent, you create a sense of structure and predictability that can be reassuring for your child, even during periods of sleep disruption. It can also help them feel a sense of control and security in knowing what to expect.

Do you need help?

It's okay to ask for help. If your baby or toddler is still having difficulties with sleep despite your best efforts, I support the options available to regain their sleep and establish a solid sleep foundation. Click here to browse the range of ways I can help you.

Take a deep breath, this is fixable! You will get your sleep back.

Written by Alexandra Selekos I'm the founder of Babee Dreams, a certified sleep consultant and a mum of three. My approach is based on studies, training through The Sleep Consulting Academy, successful outcomes experienced by those who have used my methods and the instincts of a mother. My approach will help your baby achieve their best sleep, whilst always feeling reassured, loved and never neglected.